Someone with court experience please help with emotional abuse

[Northorder]

I will not go into great detail but left abusive ex a few months back. He has one of sons as he took him from me. All kids very young. He has no pr for my eldest but does for my youngest 2. We live 100 miles apart. due to his smarmy ways and abuse only behind closed doors he got away with it. I am last days of legal aid appeal and also non mole not granted as time lapse.

Next is possible child arrangement order. My eldest is adamant through his own choice that he doesnt want to see my ex but I have no choice for the other 2 and even though he was often verbally abusive to them and smacked them he will might still residency for all?
I am so scared I will be the one to have alternate weekends as he has his own place the family home he also made me homeless before I fled because I stood up to him. Nor married and i have no rights. left with no money either.

I feel so lost in the system. Can anyone advice what happens usually of living apart? will they order me back to where he lives? My eldest is much happier here. he is only 6. I want my other son back but has he has been in his care for a while now.

Please help. thanks

I feel your pain. Well done for standing up to him when the kids are still young.
I was in a similar position except no other child, but stuck with it until they were both teens because I work shifts and have no local family and he had always kept with it that I would lose my kids cos I couldn't get childcare. As it is I lost them because the kids now believe I am very wierd because he told them, so they chose him. I also ended up accepting a pack of lies on my unreasonable behaviours cos he is so good at twisting everything and admitting nothing.
He can't take the one he has no pr for unless the child is a teen and wants that. A lot of store set on the child's wishes if they are older.
What does your solicitor say? A lot of deals now are 50/50 but that only works if you are fairly local to one another and can get the kids to school etc.
Have you spoken to the local women's centre? They helped me a lot.

So how many children do you have? 3 - 1 living with him and 2 that don't? As he has parental responsibility for 2 of your kids it is going to favour him currently unless you get that overturned but given your current living situation then that's going to be difficult?

As it stands i have reported him and womams aid are helping. he has threatened violence and my eldest told ss what he has done. we have a house but uts my family but still eldest has settled in school. Its all so worrying now though