Thread for people going through a break up to chat

[lotsofquestion]

It's been about 2 months now and probably 6 weeks since my other half left me and moved into his mums. I just wanted to start a chat to speak to other people going through the same thing I guess like thread to support/rant/ help each other get through the tough times! I've been really low recently and I am struggling so wanted to reach out!

Its a tough time for sure , for me I am about 3 months in now and to leave was my decision. My 2 are older now and totally get it but it doesnt make it any easier of course given my wife never saw it coming and thought we have an ideal life.

All i can say is it seems to get better with time and I just hope we both stay amicable

@gezzerboy I guess my situation is the flip of yours as I am like your wife and never saw it coming, I feel like ex is getting annoyed because I am so emotional about it all and he just seems so blunt about it to the point where he's started to be quite rude to me and communication is becoming quite strained.

Sorry to hear that. I would imagine that is because (like me) he has been planning this for a while and is better prepped and had time to consider things.

For me it helped a lot to stand back and take a deep breath and give EX time to breathe. Pushing and pushing just made it worse.

Maybe if you just explain that you need time to process and digest whats going on and that yes you will get to whats being demanded in the end .

@lotsofquestion we are in the same boat. Would you like to swap numbers?

@Unicornvibes yes that would be good but I don't know how to PM on the app??

I have just PM you

I'm almost there. My call. Starting to put things into motion. Opened a new bank account. I don't think he sees this coming at all, despite frequent conversations. Nothing changes. I just need to find the strength. Wish I could rewind 11 years. But then I wouldn't have my DCs so, maybe not. It hurts like hell.

I’m nearing the end of the divorce process, and half of me doesn’t want it to end at all. It’s the unknown for the future that scares me.

@gezzerboy will u pm I could do with some advice if u would xx

It's been 7 month for me and I left my husband ... it's been the most hardest horrible thing I've ever done and although I've made the rite decision 100% I still feel really depressed and don't feel like I can move on until he does ... he is definitely not making life easy for me and I'm struggling with all ... he also lays a lot of guilt on me about taking his own life and although deep down I know this wouldn't happen it plays with my mind so much.. we also have 3 kids together... will it get any better 🙏

Almost 4 weeks for me. Together 17 years married 7. 3 year old son. Husband has had an affair. Saying tonight it's been 4 weeks I should have made more progress hes sick of staying at his mums! Saying he wont stay there much longer and son and I will have to leave! ( Its a mortgaged house, I know we dont have to leave) No houses available to rent locally.

Been separated a year nearly. Ex told me he has a new girlfriend today and I don’t feel devastated but I do feel unsettled by it. Meh

I'm 3 months in.
My decision I moved out with the kids.
Have to go back soon because of school but not going back to the marital home. I think the relief comes in when you can start telling people and it makes it final. I found the hardest part pretending things were ok. Won't lie I'm exhausted. Especially after singlehandedly looking after my 4yeqr old and baby. I know it will get easier. Just all very overwhelming at times. It's been very up and down between me and my partner. Mostly because we don't have official arrangements with the kids as yet and it feels like I'm pulling the slack always. I'm seeing a solicitor soon so hoping the boundaries will become clear for us both.