Have been divorced for over 8 years and remarried a year ago. Have a 16 YO daughter with ex. Marriage was emotionally abusive and he was very controlling. I lost all self esteem because of the way he treated me and I still feel a bit damaged from that relationship.
I very much try and keep contact with the ex to what's absolutely essential, ie arrangements for our daughter. He still speaks to me like I'm nothing and is very 'critical parent'. In the last year or so I've been trying to encourage DD to make arrangements with him so that I don't have to deal with him. He doesn't like this - says I have to ask him about everything. Basically he uses any excuse to bombard me with texts/emails/Whatsapps. Yesterday when I was working I had about 8 emails to my work address despite me asking him not to use it. This morning I've been bombarded again as DD wasn't answering her messages (she's just back from Florida and was asleep, jetlagged). It's like he just can't leave me alone to get on with my life. I've tried blocking him but then he calls me childish and pathetic. He won't accept that what he's doing is unacceptable.
I know that as the father of my child I have to have some contact with him, but how do I keep that to a minimum? I dread getting a message from him as it's almost always critical and abusive. Advice please!