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Divorce/separation

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How to accept and move on

6 replies

lunalove · 13/07/2019 15:30

My husband wants a divorce. I can’t change his mind. He’s agreed to move out while the house sells and have 50/50 custody.

How do I accept it? I’m devastated. I can’t imagine my life anymore. I can’t accept that the future we had is gone.

I need to be strong and I know he’s not coming back but I just can’t seem to grasp it at all.

It feels unreal. I have no idea what my life looks like without him.

Any advice from people who’ve been there?

OP posts:

Singlenotsingle · 13/07/2019 15:35

Take time to look after yourself. Don't rush into anything. Accept all the help and support that may be offered by family and friends, and don't blame yourself!

stucknoue · 13/07/2019 22:48

Join the club that none of us wanted to join. Keep communication open is my advice. Hugs

Sadandlonely1 · 14/07/2019 14:32

I’m going through similar, I know that pain, the hurting feeing is like nothing else. No, never wanted t be in that club either. I’m trying to remain calm and hope it’s all over soon, people do move on and we will, it’s just so hard x

Wintersnow17 · 16/07/2019 21:36

Hello and hugs .my DH had an affair over 18 months ago and is still with the homewrecker and the pain , physical and mental is unlike anything I've ever felt . Some wise people who had been through it all - separation in any form told me time was the thing , time , and it is. It's not the answer I wanted or you probably but it's the only thing that really works. Talking also, talk to friends, family and counsellors. Get it all off your chest and don't be afraid to cry. I'm afraid it's a long , gruelling process but it will get better. No one wants to be in that position. I still think why? Where did it all go wrong ? Join a self help group . Meet others in the same position . Get legal advice soon as well .
Hugs

PicsInRed · 17/07/2019 08:10

Get a good solicitor and put yourself first.
Are you a SAHM or working (part time or full time?

2cats2many · 17/07/2019 08:14

It's totally normal to feel as you do. What you're experiencing is grief over the loss of your marriage. I know that when I divorced, it certainly felt like a death.

Give yourself time. Remind yourself that you won't always feel like this, but it's OK to feel the way you do now. It's OK to be sad.

Exercise, eat well, see friends, take care of yourself. Good luck.

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