Should I return it?

[Kittycat124]

My ex husband has just dragged me through an unnecessarily messy divorce and it is now just about ended. I have paid a lot more than he has and it was a divorce he wanted.

I have recently found some books belonging to him and I’m not sure what to do with them. He has signed to say he has no more property at my home, I found these items by chance.

Should i:

1. Return via a mutual friend
2. Send to a charity shop locally, where his mother is likely to find them
3. Send to a charity shop away from where the ex MIL will find them.

He’s written his name in these books so she’ll know they are his.

I don’t want to be kind to him as he’s been vile to me, but I feel it’s not in me to be nasty. Hope this makes sense.

What do you think?

I would just donate to your nearest charity shop, I certainly wouldn't return them to him, opening the door to more contact especially as he has been nasty.

If he hasn't noticed they've gone take them to a charity bin which accepts books?

Sorry i read he had been nasty, my mistake. Still wouldn't contact him.

Thanks for the responses, but should I donate locally or further away?

Send them as far away as possible. No way would he get them back from me if he’d been a knob.

Just bin them.
Don't borrow trouble with the charity shop idea.
In the bin. Like him.
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If you live near your local tip, there should be a big bin there for books. I'd put them in there. They're sent to charity shops, but the chance of them being sent to one near you is very slim.

Just bin them, when my DH and his ex divorced she signed to say that she had removed everything from the house as per consent order. He found tons of stuff from
Riding helmets, to books etc. He just presumed she didn’t want as she had left them so he binned the rubbish things and left some at charity shop etc

Paper recycling for them! He has signed to say they are not his property. Or if they are worth anything sell them on something like WeBuyBooks.

I'd take them to a non-local charity shop as it would be less stressful for me.

Cross out his name with permanent marker, or cut out the page his name is on if it's one of the blank ones at front, and bring them to any charity shop.