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Divorce/separation

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"Beautiful" thing I was told yesterday.

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MarianneEU · 27/06/2019 12:40

So yesterday, I messaged my stbxh with an account number and the amount he had to transfer to pay a bill. He said loads of times before that he wants to take care of it on his own from now on. So messaged him with all the details, like he said.

He comes home and in front of our child, he
gets angry, makes me look crazy like he didn't say he wants to pay it himself (he did several times, I'm not crazy) and then he says "I can't believe you did that, how about I stop paying for all your bills and your shit? How about that?"

In front of our child. I just said quickly that I'll pay for it so that he would just leave and let it go because if I said what I wanted, our child would be traumatised and my stbxh doesn't stop and doesn't give a shit that the child is present.

I am tired of being threatened with money. I truly am. It's years of this threat every time he gets angry, years of verbal and emotional abuse. I don't have a question, I just wanted to vent to someone because I'm so hurt and angry. The only comforting thought is that it will be over soon enough.

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HennyPennyHorror · 27/06/2019 14:40

Flowers Are you still living in the same house?

lifebegins50 · 27/06/2019 14:42

Its gaslighting designed to make you feel crazy. Get everything separated as quickly as possible so you don't need to rely on him

MarianneEU · 27/06/2019 16:38

Unfortunately, yes. The housing situation is very difficult here and houses are very, very difficult to find. I'll be moving out as soon as possible after I start the divorce proceedings.

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iamthrough · 28/06/2019 08:51

I'm afraid he's Gaslighting you and mixed in with coercive control. Living in the same house as you ex is going to be very very difficult (I know - I went though it too) Google Grey Rock technique it may help but stay strong and try to remember he's manipulating you and keep your head down until you can find alternative accommodation. Good Luck Flowers

user1486131602 · 05/07/2019 23:35

That’s now abuse under the definition of the law, changed in jan this year. Let your solicitor know

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