Tell me to get a grip - envy exh bullied me from house & kept it

[Newnewnewnames]

Hi all,
In my rational moments I know I am better off. I am free. DC live with me. I have a lovely house, detached, all mine (and banks 😉). I left him, abusive WNexh.
But in order for short, swift break I was rightly advised to sell him house to move on. I had already been bullied into leaving, he changed locks & I was scared of him.
Now I when I see beautiful house I am v pissed off - I paid for that!
Tell me to get a grip - if I could just have a couple of things to think from you lovely ladies, I will be able to get over this!
Aaagh, I'm making myself cross!

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It does sound like you have lots to be grateful for, OP. And the best revenge is a life well-lived, as they say.

Can see why you'd be fuming though. Can you rise above it and think positive thoughts about your many blessings (but pray for a plague of woodworm and dry rot to afflict his house in dark moments).

Bumping this for you for more advice from others.

I like the advice to rise above it, be thankful and also to pray for woodworm and dry rot! Sounds like the perfect balance there

I know what you mean though OP. I would feel resentful if my STBXH were getting to keep the house, even though he does no household maintenance so would leave the house to ruin and I believe he also has hoarding issues that will spiral once he doesn't have any obligation to make room for other humans (he's an addict and I think the behaviour affects all aspects of his life)

So, your old house might look nice OP, but it is not a home. It has a huge cockwomble issue (as well as the woodworm and dry rot). You're better off in your lovely new home - that is where your future lies