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Child maintenance - low tax return

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Lorry123 · 21/06/2019 13:34

My ex husband, who continues to abuse and harass me 3 years after leaving me, has recently submitted his 2018 tax return declaring his income as £7k per year, down from £70K for the previous 6 years. He is still in the same position, running the same company which is showing a profit, and this dramatic decrease isn't reflected in his lifestyle - new cards, 5 holidays so far this year etc.

The result of this is that the CSA has written to me advising that his CM payments are going down from £550 per month to £30 per month! This is a real problem as I count on that money to pay mortgage and clothe/feed 2 teenage DSs. Has anyone had experience of this? I assume he can't spend the next 8 years declaring just £7k pa so in the future this amount may change but for now I am going to struggle.

Also he made £140K profit from a house sale last year which he has kept as cash (rather than investing in another property) - does this bear any relevance to paying child support?

It's so frustrating as really he is mostly affecting the kids as there are a number of activities that will now have to stop as I just won't be able to afford them - but he sees the money as being for me rather than for them.

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Tactfulish · 21/06/2019 13:39

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Scorpvenus1 · 21/06/2019 13:54

Id let HMRC know and report him.

Lorry123 · 21/06/2019 14:05

We had a 'family based arrangement' previously but he has now called upon the CSA (not me) in order to make this calculation. He tells me his following his obligations to the letter but is clearly manipulating the system to his advantage and either not declaring everything or is living off the monies from the house sale and not paying himself in order to avoid paying me. Kids are 10 and 12 so still a way to go and are hungry growing boys - not cheap to feed or clothe!

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Wonkydonkey44 · 21/06/2019 14:10

You can apply for I think it’s called a notice of variation where they look at his life style as apposed to his wage . Obviously something isn’t right! Call them and tell them what you’ve said here x

Lorry123 · 21/06/2019 14:54

Tanks, Wonky - yes I have just done that and they are going to do firstly a notice of variation and then a financial investigation into him as this doesn't marry up at all. Feeling slightly calmer but I hate all the admin / chasing / calls etc that come with men like him!!

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Flower64 · 21/06/2019 15:13

He will be taking the tax efficient salary and then the rest in dividends which historically isn't classed as earnings when they work out CM. My ex did this too....

Palaver1 · 22/06/2019 06:52

And this is why I work my butt off nasty nasty behaviour I wonder what my soon to be ex will do his not working privately though but never has given his farts for free either a very selfish man,
You really have to do without some things and you will because we are like that .What a nasty

Ozziewozzie · 22/06/2019 06:56

I know all about this. Have endured exactly the same thing. Pm me. Flowers

SusieSusieSoo · 22/06/2019 07:20

What flower said. Is there any way you can put some peer pressure on him to be sensible I.e. stop being a dick to his dcs?

Does he have good friends/a good friend you could talk to & see if that might work or is his dad likely to talk some sense into him if you spoke to him about what's happened?

Realise these may be of no help at all but if he is flashing the cash with his mates all weekend there might be one who'd have a word & tell him to stop the nonsense. What an utter tool he is op xx

Seniorschoolmum · 22/06/2019 07:39

If he made some money on property last year, that counts as capital gains, not income. He may be living on that and putting most of his salary in his pension, which would mean it doesn’t get included in the CMS calculation.

If it’s a significant difference, a notice of variation may help.

Lorry123 · 23/06/2019 07:12

Ozzie have pm’ed you

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