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I want to leave my husband but I have no money

5 replies

Moominmama79 · 21/06/2019 11:52

I've been with my husband for 15 years, married for 5. He has a drink problem but denies it and I can't cope anymore. We have a 10 year old son. I'm ready to leave but financially I can't do it. I'm not working at the moment as I was made redundant and I have no savings. How do people just up and leave so easily? I need at least £1500 upfront to rent somewhere. I know once we've separated and I've left, financially I should be ok with benefits etc until I find work but it's having the money first to actually leave. We have a joint mortgage. Any advice please?

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Theworldcouldbemymollusc · 23/06/2019 15:07

Do you have any friends or family that can lend you the money? Often they can see that you are stuck and will do anything to help. Otherwise a loan?

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Moominmama79 · 24/06/2019 09:34

Thank you for your reply! I don't have any friends and my family is very small. My family won't have that sort of money spare either. I don't think I'd be able to get a loan with me not working as I wouldn't be able to pay it back 😔 I wasn't sure if there was some financial help that would be available to me to help me leave?

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ohwhattodowithmylife · 24/06/2019 09:39

Hi, I left my husband recently. I was lucky I did manage to get hold of some money for deposit/rent.
You can speak to housing, if you are not working you will be eligible for deposit and rent in advance scheme that you pay back over a year.
Speak to your local council ASAP x

joancassied · 25/06/2019 22:07

Hi I am in a very similar situation at the moment and I'm trying to get my husband to see sense and let me and the children stay as his father has a 5 bed house and he could live there comfortably and save for another house.
Could asking your husband to leave be an option for you?

joancassied · 25/06/2019 22:10

Also when I looked at renting alone they wouldn't give me a chance because I work part time and while I'm still with my husband I can't claim any benefits to top up my income so they said I couldn't afford to rent the properties. you may find it difficult also seeing as you are currently unemployed. It's an awful situation to be in so I really understand and feel for you. Good luck

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