Divorce process - what to do first?

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Can someone give me a step by step guide?

He refuses to give me any financial information in writing.

I can apply for divorce but at what step do I have the right to get this information?

He has his own business.

And at what point do we agree in the split in childcare? Another thing we don’t agree on.

You need to see a solicitor do you have any ideas of his finances? Re the childcare you are likely to be advised to go to mediation. Unfortunately if he’s being secretive now he may start to hide his finances in an attempt to not get a fair deal. Good luck

At mediation is he required to disclose financial information?

Or do I have to go to court for him to legally share information?

I want him to share his finances with me beforehand as I want to see a solicitor before mediation. Is this acceptable?

I don’t think so it would only be as part of the divorce that the solicitor could request full financial disclosure, I’m lucky in that I knew everything about the finances (more than him!) it’s a long old road and is defo recommend the 1/2 hour free with a solicitor to give you some sound advice xx

Do you agree the split in childcare at the same time as the financial split?

I am assuming that if I get more time with the children I would get more of the house equity?

This board seems really quiet may I should move this question elsewhere x

I think you need to ask this to be moved to 'legal'.

Just to let you know btw. There is no legal obligation to employ a solicitor for a divorce. ! So advice above not entirely correct. However , if money for Solicitor is available go for it - only do your research and get a good one. A bad one is a hell of a lot of money to waste.

If you want to do it your self. Look at Wikivorce an EXTRAORDINARILY comprehensive website on all things divorce that should also answer your question.

Residence arrangements and divorce financials are separate issues.

Residence arrangements for the kids are decided by reference to what is in their best interests - not so that you can "get more time with the children" to "get more of the house equity". If you go into Court with that as your goal, a Judge will not be understanding - you need to put the kids first. That means thinking now about what sort of arrangement would work well for them. It's always preferable to sort out residence outside of Court or mediation if possible, to ensure the kids aren't caught up in the crossfire. So, your statting point is to talk tk the kids and to your soon-to-be-ex to see if you can come to an agreement that is right for the kids.

The divorce financials are done according to need. You need to speak to a solicitor to understand what would be realistic and reasonable.