Separation when H is emotional abusive

[unhappylady1]

Anyone have any experience of dealing with someone who is classed as being 'mr right'... I know he's going to be a nightmare and will make me feel guilty and threaten etc

I do.
My H and I are no longer together. When we split, he became really spiteful. Took anything he could to make our life difficult. He then runs around telling everyone how awful I am and how hard it's been for him. Then he would fling himself towards any available vagina.
I was so relieved to be away from him I was literally glowing.

Say though he's smack bang in my face again. Our son has been ill for 7 months and ( it's very complicated) but he's here an awful lot. I can't bear him. To everyone else, they think he's amazing. To me, he's a dirty cheat, a gas lighter, manipulative, a liar, immature, controlling and he's gone as far as paying for sex online twice.
One more blood test for my son I'm hoping and then I will be free of him.
When's he left he goes to great trouble to make things difficult for me. Then turns up telling me how amazing I look . He can't cope with taking our two kids out by himself, so I never actually get a break. Perfect man indeed.

Thanks for replying Ozzie, gosh that sounds tough . I'm lucky in that we don't have kids but I know he'll do the whole slagging me off to everyone and blaming me for our relationship breakdown - I can't stand the thought of that as I consider myself a kind person and worry what people think of me. I hope your free of him soon

I wish you the best of luck, I really do.
I used to really mind what he said about me, but now I know it says more about him than me. Despite having plenty to say (facts) about him, I never go and slag him off. I always remind myself that we have the two little Ines and it's their dad. I can look myself in the mirror. Xx

Can anyone please advise me. My husband has been controlling for many years. I somehow put up with it. This may sound so alien to so many but I am up at this time stressing out. To cut a long story short he started to drink and get abusive. I go to bed early and ignore it hoping he will just go to sleep without picking a fight. Anyway I found a house to rent 2 months ago. Since he has changed careers he wanted to rent the marital home out and move back to his home he had years ago. I did not want this., I found a house and we agreed to separate . Before I knew it I had received a legal separation. Outlining I had no claim on this and no claim on that - offering me 20k now and 20k when the house is sold. My husband has houses and money - But without some money from him I could not pay 6 months rent up front - he transferred 15k I paid for the house 6 months - He demanded I signed this legal agreement - bullying shouting. A few nights locking me out as I never brought the form back signed. I said I need legal advise. He threatened me so much that I knew I would not get my belongings out - he said you have to sign look at it as a receipt. Sign sign!! - I thought sigh it get my stuff out then see a solicitor as I had no choice. I signed it Wednesday gave it to him had a van organised on Friday. He left it in the cabinet I said are you taking it he said no no!! It's a receipt I can trust you now with that 15k ... I moved my stuff out Friday - got the form from the house and rushed to his solicitors to tell them the situation - She was not in her secretary said that the legal separation had been signed Thursday yesterday and a copy was coming out to me - I looked at the form I had signed and he had photocopied it - I have signed away everything because of abuse - Can anyone advise - thank you ... forgive any misspellings or incorrect grammar it's late and I am stressed with this ....