I'm separating from my DH of 23 years and have three DC aged 17, 14 and 11. I've had thoughts of doing this on and off for many years but I've wavered because he's a good man and father and everyone loves him. But, there's always been a lack of intimacy and connection that I've struggled with endlessly and a level of co-dependency on my behalf which has left me feeling low and lacking in confidence. I've had therapy, taken the anti depressants, analysed myself to death and I still feel a drive to leave. So I told him 8 weeks ago and he's devastated and has spent the whole time campaigning to get me back. I've had moments of real doubt but still I haven't felt a huge drive to reconnect with him or return to what we had so I'm pushing ahead. I've almost found a rental property and we have agreed to tel the DC this weekend. I know they're going to be devastated and I suppose at this point now I'm questioning myself big time. Everyone else on MN seems to be leaving their DH for very significant reasons and I feel mine somehow don't justify the level of disruption I'm going to cause. But I'm not in love with him anymore. Is that enough of a reason? Will the kids be ok?? 