Ex husband wanting to vary consent order. New wife wants plastic surgery!

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Ex husband who left us for a young Filipino bar girl has now come back to my lawyer to say that, one and half years after the consent order was written up, he wants to reduce my maintenance. I'm furious! Not only because I'm still paying off the 35k I had to spend on getting out of a marriage I was happy with, but this arsehole, who left me with the kids and i work 7 days a week, now needs more money!!!!!!!!
Judging by the woman 's open Facebook page, they live in a classy apartment in Sydney, have a toddler who is dressed in new clothes in pretty much every photo, live off champagne and oysters, have taken over 10 international flights in the last year and the woman has had a new nose and lip fillers. Now, clearly wants a boob job (she has none).
Has this happened to anyone else? I'm seething !

Hopefully the lawyers will see through him, as you have done.

Whether you should be seething depends on whether the original maintenance was over generous or already relatively low iyswim?

I thought the consent order was the final say in all these things? Eg if you won the lottery etc he couldn't come after that. (I might be wrong...I just thought that was what it was)

Has he actually said it's to fund plastic surgery? It sounds from your post like that's an assumption.

Facebook can be misleading. Don't torture yourself by looking at it.

This is why clean break settlements are such a good idea when assets allow: they allow both parties to move on with their lives without needing to dwell on their ex's circumstances. I realise that may not have been an option here.

As an impartial observer, it sounds to me like you'd be happier if you stopped fixating on the ex's new partner and tried to focus on the cold hard facts of the case.

What does your lawyer think of the bid to lower your maintenance?

Yup you're right.