Can life get any worse? When will it get better?

[AimeeFrank]

Hi everyone

Sat here on a Friday night alone with the cat feeling very sorry for myself. I’ve had a pretty fucking awful year... last summer my husband walked out on our marriage.. has left me absolutely devastated. Then, a month ago.. my parents were involved in a car accident (my brother and his boyfriend in the car with them) and my beautiful mum died and my dad is still very ill in ICU with about a million broken bones. So I’m dealing with the grief of my marriage and impending divorce and all of that malarkey. I do have some amazing friends.. but I do miss that support from my STBEXH and I miss my mum terribly. Just numb with it all. Now, I’m/my family are trying to deal with the fact we’ve lost our mum in the most horrendous circumstances and our dad is so ill and everything that one would associate with the loss of a parent.
Why do bad things happen? When will things get better? I don’t know what to do, what to think or say.. I wish with all my heart that this wasn’t happening.

I wish it wasn't happening too There are no words that can make this easier for you. You are brave and you will get through this, just take it one day at a time, even one hour at a time when you need to. Be really really kind to yourself, spend time with people who love you, never think you are bothering people, they will be desperate to help. I'm so sorry for your loss OP

So sorry for your loss and the terrible year your having, try to stay strong, it will get easier in time.
My thoughts are with you and your family.

I am so terribly sorry to hear what you are going through. Take it moment by moment and take comfort in those around you and always try to focus on the basic self care to get you through the days: sleep (tough, I know), simple but healthy(ish) food, being outside.

I’m so sorry to read your post.

Self refer for some counselling - you need help to get through such trauma and a safe place to cry and talk & ask questions may help you xx

not really any words that will help but sending a virtual hug. Hope your dad is slowly getting better. I have to believe life does get better if you are a good person - everyone on this board is here for the same reason but there's lots of positive messages I hold onto at 3am on another sleepless night.

With my other hat on, there's orgs out there that help you with counselling dealing with grief, plus people in the wider community like churches - I often have people in with not dissimilar situations and just listening to them helps.