Unreasonable Behaviour statement form clarification

[BettyBo33]

Can anyone clarify what one writes on the form where it ask if the defendants behaviour is ongoing and/or when the date of the last time the defendant acted in an unreasonable manner?

We’ve been separated for 8 months. Do I write down ongoing behaviour since or just behaviour in the lead up to separating? Now we aren’t together his behaviour is not effecting me like it was but I’m unsure on the forms what i am expected to write.

Thanks x

Is he still behaving like he was before? If yes, say yes. If no, put a date. The date can't be later than the date of the petition.

The next Q asks if you have shared a home for more than 6 months since then. If it is yes, they want details of the arrangements as if you were too cooperative that will suggest that you aren't entitled to a divorce.

Thanks for your reply. I mean yes he still does shitty things, did today actually, so if I filled in the petition and dated tomorrow for example I can use any examples prior to that date but not past 6 months ago??

I’m really confused as what to say as his behaviour and so examples that led us to separate are over 6 months ago..as we no longer live together and live separate lives we don’t interact in order for his behaviour to effect me in the same way...

That information is only seen by your XH and the courts - you can put everything down

Oh sorry, I thought you were at the decree nisi stage!

Yes, details of his behaviour before separation are fine. Specific incidents or general behaviour both ok. Ideally put the most recent stuff, and the worst stuff. If the behaviour is trivial, say how it affected you as the judge needs to see that it isn't reasonable to expect you to live with him. If it's serious, like violence, that speaks for itself.

You’re star thank you! No not there yet! Taking the plunge to petition tomorrow. Want to do it by myself if possible.

Are you using the online service? It seems pretty good.