What are you looking forward too?

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My husband recently said he wants a divorce. Very out of the blue and understandably I am absolutely heart broken about it. So I thought I'd try and force on the positive things about being a single mum, pop on here, share and ask:
What are you looking forward to about being single, divorced, away from your ex?? For example:
I'm looking forward to being able to decorate my new home without comprising for anyone else .

Not having to deal with his daily dramas and ' my mother said'
And more importantly
Just being free to be me again x
Baby steps are still steps forward, I'm sorry that you had to experience this but things will be better. As the saying goes: don't look back you're not going that way!
Love and hugs 🤗 ❤️

Like any break up, I'm looking forward to no worrying about someone else all the time (obviously apart from my baby!) X

Just having this divorce caper over with really. It’s dragging on and on. 10 months and counting.

Control of finances, decorating how i like , eating what i like, movie nights with kids , holidays i like , calm , reinventing me

Molly33:
Amen to that!

My wife cheated on me twice, continues to live in family home 17 months after separation, and is trying to screw me on financials and the children.

I'm looking forward to her gone, and me being happy with, and a good father to, my children. Nothing else matters.

Time will heal.

Being able to have my pick of what we do in the evenings x

*what I do in the evenings

I'm looking forward to the part where his OW dumps him and he is alone and still miserable and realises it wasn't ALL my fault.
Oh wait, must focus on me. I am looking forward to doing fun things without a grumpy, complaining husband along who needs constant emotional babysitting.

Looking forward to not finding ginger pubes in the bath!

No beard bristles all over the sink every single time I've freshly cleaned it

No putting it on sky sports and leaving the room

The things I'm enjoying (now I have got rid of him) are:

• not being treated with contempt
• my home not looking like a pig sty/squat without me picking up litter, tidying up and cleaning after him constantly
• no filthy crockery jenga going on in the sink (whilst the dishwasher is empty)
• the house smelling nice (it used to wreak when he was there and people noticed it )
• being able to be myself instead of the meek, eggshell treading, nice, bland person who was devoid of all personality in order to keep the peace
• being able to eat what i like, watch whatever tv i like and go to bed when I want to
• feeling less lonely on my own than when he was around
• being able to see my friends (ended up being more trouble than it was worth)
• being able to choose holiday destinations instead of him choosing things that were not my thing at all
• opening the front door without a sense of dread
• being able to shop without judgment and buy whatever i like to wear (without re-packing items into Tesco bags on the way home)
• being able to go on a night out with friends
• having a duvet, film and takeaway day without judgment
• there not being a constant bad atmosphere - just the nice smell of pretty candles
• no sock fluff all over the floor
• not being obliged to spend his days off with him and then trying to placate his tantrums when he couldn't decide what he wanted to do.
• feeling peaceful when I am at home, like it's my sanctuary, not prison.

I would like to have what I want on the tv and have friends over lots but he's not going anywhere for the foreseeable future for financial reasons, I need his money basically. I am kind of looking forward to dating got asked out yesterday!