separation... what to do if you are ghosted?! :(

[suri678]

The father of my unborn child blocked me as soon as he found out I’m pregnant. deleted himself off all social media too. pretends I don’t exist in his life. he hadn’t explained himself at all, just said - I don’t want a kid and.. disappeared from my life. It’s been bugging me for so long - I keep blaming myself for everything and I am really unsure of what I’ve done wrong....it’s really hard to live without any closure...every day it hurts like hell. thank you xx

Scared of taking responsibility ,definitely not an upright respectful man
Regardless off if he wants a child or not,the child is on the way.
One thing ..you will cope with or without his support.
He will come around but when that’s the question.

If he wants to behave like this, you can't change him, and you will probably realise you've dodged a bullet not having this person in your life. Who wants someone who has to be forced to be a father??
I know it's daunting but you really can do this. A good mother is worth a thousand useless fathers!
I hope you have someone else for love and support. Can you talk to your mum/friend/sister? Someone you can use as a sounding board for you to make plans?
I'm sure you'll find plenty of support on here. Plenty of women have stood in your shoes and will be along with reassurance.

He simply doesn't want to be a father, or at least not yet, or perhaps not with you. The point is, he's probably done you a favour by fucking off now, rather than messing you around, letting you believe that he will be around and then not being, etc. Frustrating as it is, you have your answer. I'm sure you'd like to discuss it with him, but that doesn't change the fact that you're going to have a baby and you're going to be a single parent. You can still chase him for maintenance, so contact the CSA to get the ball rolling (not sure if you can do that now or have to wait until the baby is born?), and in the meantime seek support for yourself. Gingerbread is a charity that helps single parents.

www.gov.uk/child-maintenance

www.gingerbread.org.uk/