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Divorce/separation

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Hubby acting like all ok

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tnx101214 · 10/04/2019 16:45

My husband was the one who said he was going to leave and told me to “sort out” divorce. I’ve been finding out what I need to do etc...but he has refused to discuss anything and thinks he just signs a paper and that’s it. When I’ve tried discussing (thru text coz he won’t talk) he just dismisses anything to do with finances/children. He is now acting like everything is back to normal like it was just a little argument. It was not a little argument, it’s been brewing for a couple of years because of his behaviour towards me. In the past I’ve let things go due to fear of him causing more problems (usually when drunk) but now I’ve reached my limit. How do I go forward with divorce when he doesn’t acknowledge it? We rent and don’t own a house but we both live here.

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TheChiefBMS · 10/04/2019 16:51

See a solicitor. ASAP.

stucknoue · 10/04/2019 16:55

The first thing is to consider housing, you rent so there's less issues - do you qualify for housing benefits/uc for instance, do you work? The divorce it's self is paperwork, the hard bit is the arrangements that need to be made to split your lives (and it's a nightmare I'm finding). Once you have worked out finances you can either ask him to leave or move out yourself. Child maintenance is best done between you but there's calculators online to help - you only need to seek legal help if you can't agree. I think we will wait until the law changes so we can jointly file and save £££

tnx101214 · 10/04/2019 17:33

We live in council housing with both names on tenancy so if I leave with the kids I’m making us homeless. I suspect he’ll make everything as difficult as possible because he seems to be under the impression all is ok. I haven’t gone into detail but his behaviour is emotional and verbal abuse which he completely denies. I do not what to go down down the route of authorities if I can avoid it.
I can’t wait for new law to come in place coz I need this done ASAP, I just don’t know what to do if he refuses to sign anything.

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Itsnotme123 · 12/04/2019 09:29

You could leave and live somewhere else ( with your parents ) for 5 years and then you can divorce him with him being involved. But I guess that’s not an option ?

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