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Access to baby with shift work

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kuvvy0606 · 07/04/2019 20:29

Me and my ex have a 9 month old. He works sporadic shift work, often nights and has 2 split rest days a week (sometimes together). We have never lived together, but he has just come to visit when he had time. I breastfeed and have never left her with him apart from a few hours. This is due to the fact that he has mental health issues, has attempted to overdose and commit suicide and when I was pregnant threatened to crash the car with me in it.
I am wanting to know what is reasonable access at this time, he is saying he wants 50:50 and I have said no in mediation and he will now be taking me to court.

I'm curious as to what you ladies think is a reasonable amount of contact, I was thinking 1 full day and also an afternoon per week?
Do you think that is ok?

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kuvvy0606 · 07/04/2019 20:30

Just to add as well, he sends me his shifts on the Thursday for the next week. He only gets them 1 week ahead, which is a pain but I want to be flexible!

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ThisMustBeMyDream · 07/04/2019 20:37

My partner reduced his days at work to be able to facilitate contact with his baby. When his work got arsey, he got a new job and quit. His child was his priority, so he fit the rest of his life in around that.

He had 3 days a week building from 30 mins to full days and overnights over a 6 month period. She wasn't breastfed though.

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