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Here you'll find divorce help and support from other Mners. For legal advice, you may find Advice Now guides useful.

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decri nisi amend

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m1north · 04/04/2019 11:52

Where can you get advice about a decri nisi refusal without the expense of a solicitor.
Seems we're not allowed to act like adults (everything has to be nasty) and you are penalised for telling the truth.
This is a minefield …..any takers ?

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GaGaMummy · 04/04/2019 12:30

I'm going through a divorce at the moment and doing through the Gov website, maybe if you do a search on there you may find some links? Or failing that, citizens advice? Sorry if I'm not much help.

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m1north · 04/04/2019 14:22

Thanks for answering.
The Gov website just tells you to seek legal advice (obv have to pay), just need direction i'm sure somebody could help to avoid expense. :(

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SureTry · 04/04/2019 14:31

Have you tried calling the courts? I did mine online and have also had it rejected (for being truthful) so I've had to redo my application and gone to the bottom of the pile 😔 I had originally applied for it in January. It's soul destroying.

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m1north · 04/04/2019 15:24

So when you redid your application did you have to pay the fee again ?
I was told by some to amend the question in red and reserve , but I would just like to know if that's possible and how to do it exactly !!
:(

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SureTry · 04/04/2019 16:38

I didn't have to an additional fee pay. On my D79 form it told me why it was rejected and what I needed to do next. I did call the courts for clarification because I needed it explained in plain English, I didn't understand the legal terms used. Now I just have to cross my fingers, hope, pray and wait a long time.

ScreamScreamIceCream · 04/04/2019 19:59

There are loads of better forums than this one you can Google for where people can give you advice on divorce including completing the forms.

Also if you Google there are legal advice services that are much cheaper than using a solicitor. However you will be expected to stick to standard reasons for divorce and to be honest who cares? Only the court , you two and your legal representatives ever see the particulars of your petition so while you have to be truthful you need to fit into the box.

CF43 · 04/04/2019 20:32

I applied for mine in June and got it award in september 2018 that is, i did it through a solicitor though, I think you have to put alot of detail down and if it has been refused it's usually because there isn't enough information about the cause, or the reason's were not severe enough.

Not saying to emblish on the answers as they won't get you anywhere but to elaborate on the reason. Depends on what category as well if you are going for unreasonable behaviour they want to know why what was so wrong that you can't possible live with them anymore. Unfortunately there isn't one for irreceable difference in the uk at the moment. So unless you can come up with some really good reasons, it's two years seperation with consent or five without.

What ever your reasons try and put as much details as possible.

Good luck, this is the easy bit it's getting any money out the b.... that I am having problems with.

GemmaFoster · 04/04/2019 20:56

Did your refusal letter say you had to amend your petition ? Or can you just add additional reasons on the statement of support for the nisi ? Unfortunately current divorce law states that for unreasonable behaviour the petitioner has to slate the respondent - there’s no room for six of one / half a dozen of the other. When I got divorced we agreed that my ex would divorce me on behaviour but it was all fairly mild. Not wanting to socialise with him, moving into spare room etc. If you amend your petition there is a fee, if you can just resubmit nisi forms there’s no fee. Phone the courts and they should advise on process / costs.

stucknoue · 05/04/2019 21:31

I'm guessing that if you wait 2 years you don't need to worry about this? We want the easy option

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m1north · 05/04/2019 23:14

Thanks for all the replies …..turns out that phoning the court was the best advice (didn't realise I could even do that) they gave me the options that were available to me . And when I said I may as well have lied about it , they said I shouldn't be saying that as they are monitoring the calls heh heh !!

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Chookie059 · 05/04/2019 23:54

Wondering if anyone else has gone through Ex refusing to pay financial agreement following divorce? Also he's trying to renegotiate it (not happening!). Plus he lives & works abroad which he thinks makes him untouchable, altho he has recently set up a company in England. I am on a low wage & can't afford hefty legal charges & my solicitor said he doubted if Legal Aid would be available to pursue my Ex. Divorce granted in Scotland. So unfair - children & I suffering whilst Ex living the high life. System seems so weighted against those who are the financially challenged in divorce.
I'd welcome your advice/thoughts.

GemmaFoster · 08/04/2019 16:50

Form A and a court fee of £255 or apply for help with court fees. You don’t always need a solicitor- it’s a myth. Good luck.

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