My husband left last week (his children, wife, elderly mother who lives with us and of course his home) to be with his mistress of seven years. She wasn’t just any mistress, she was a close family friend who came on holidays with us, day trips, stayed over, his PhD graduation and of course Christmas and family events etc. So a massive part of our lives and also ‘aunt’ to my children and ‘sister and best friend’ to me.
I am petitioning on grounds of adultery and unreasonable behaviour tomorrow. He sees his solicitor on Tuesday. He knows but i haven’t said specifically what, just he would probably know. Plus I have been handed proof of it.
His mistress is married. She left her husband almost 2 years ago and my husband drew up the financial agreement for them within 3 days. Stupidly at the time, his mistress’s husband left his home and agreed to it. They were going to get a ‘no reason’ divorce in 2 weeks but I have handed him the proof of the affair as it has been going on since my seven year old was a newborn baby OR was in utero. So now he is petitioning her for the same.
My question first is where do I send the petition? His new home with his mistress whose address I know part of (postcode not), his solicitors (I can ask for this address) or his work (they both work there) and stick it to him in public? (Everyone knows what they did anyways!) I want it sent recorded delivery and signed for - obviously!
We are being amicable for the children’s sake when face to face but I REALLY want him to face the consequences of what he has done. In fact he seemed rushed and flustered today when picking up the children. 😂
I have been married 8 years and 7 months. For seven of those years both have committed a sordid and despicable act. Neither have shown remorse or even TRIED to apologise (not that it would make a difference BUT the fact they won’t even try ...) My whole marriage and family life has been a lie. I have been utterly deceived and betrayed in the most wickedest of ways and every memory I look back in joe, I cannot help but think the worst (he was sticking it to her whilst playing happy families with us and continuing to have - a good - intimate life in the bedroom with me)
When I thought he was going to break up with her on the 19th March (he actually text her beforehand and told her he was coming over to be with her) he came downstairs to tell me it was definitely us he wanted and he was going to break it up with her and SWORE on our children’s lives.
He is a conman. I married a conman.
I was going to offer him a door and a fresh start if he admitted that his mistress was pushing the affair and he chose her because he felt he had no choice but that was on what I THOUGHT was a 2 year emotional affair. Now I know it’s far worse and he WILLINGLY continued it and probably would have done if his mistress hadn’t of threatened to start a new relationship with ANOTHER MARRIED MAN WHO LEFT HIS WIFE AND KIDS THE WEEK BEFORE, I am determined to end our marriage. We didn’t have one. I thought I did, but what I loved amongst was nothing but a sordid little secret that would have continued for years (wife and mistress on each arm) and I would have continued to be deceived.