How do I get divorced?

[YesAnastasia]

I am a sahm and have no idea how it will work if I want a divorce.

My children are autistic and so I haven't been able to get a job (or have a life...) for 10 years. My (also autistic) husband's career has flourished (obviously) but I feel like a slave to them all and I've finally had enough.

The problem is - what will I do? How will I pay for stuff? What am I entitled to? etc.

This fear and helplessness keeps women in abusive relationships for sure. I feel completely trapped.

sorry no answers for you.
I'm in need of a few answers myself on my next step. I hope someone comes along to help us with some advice

Gather information his salary (bonuses) bank accounts, pensions, isa, rough house value. Get an appointment with a solicitor to get advice on likely financial split. Check benefits calculator.

look at entitltedto.com

I don't know anything about his finances actually. I know he has multiple bank accounts, ISAs and a good wage but that's it.
He won't tell me if I ask so what do I do?

You definitely need legal advice. He will at some point need to provide this information, but you are likely to need help getting it.

Ok. Thank you.