Coping strategies

[AutismorArse]

I'm currently working out how we separate and then divorce. 'D'H is complicated and controlling and I can do practical planning and legal advice but does anyone have any advice for coping strategies?

I know he's going to put me through the ringer, makes out I'm the one with problems when he's a massive narcissist who is almost neglectful of our kids.

So any ways of keeping up my mental health, coping strategies, things that worked for you.

I'm pretty tough but i have two small kids, one with suspected autism, dog, career, likely house sale and move and now a fight with a narcissist who doesn't want to divorce out of pride. I fear it will make me crumble. Or drink loads...

I am sorry you find yourself in this situation. I do not have young children but I am divorcing a narcissist. The only thing that has kept me sane is weekly counselling, which I pay for. 16 months worth of counselling has been expensive (and is still ongoing) but it gives me a place to offload and to try to learn to disentangle myself from his gaslighting, lies and manipulations (which are still ongoing). I am stronger now than I was a year ago, although still no further forward in the divorce process because he keeps dragging things out. If you can afford it, try to get some counselling and possibly some temporary medication for anxiety. You could also google the freedom programme to see if this is available in your area (it is free).

Hope this helps.

I am two years down the line of separating from my husband.

We are still living in the same house with our three young children.

August 18 was the first court hearing. December 18 was the 2nd. Final hearing is in June. Two weeks till court hearing for child arrangements.

He has incurable cancer...

The stress I have been through is incredible. I’ve no idea somedays how I’ve managed to see it through till now!!!

I’ve been through drinking heavier, I used running and exercise as escape for head space. I’ve got a handful of friends who I’m close to for support. And have had counselling which I’m returning to in a couple of weeks.

And why am I doing this? For my kids. They are my whole world and deserve the right end to this.

Good luck...you’re never alone...