TAKEN TO THE CLEANERS

[notnotnee]

Hi
So I just wanted to warn people of marrying in haste.

I married a man after just 1 year who seemed to be the perfect man. Funny, charming, kind, generous, romantic, hard working etc. That all changed once I married him. He became the opposite of all the above.
After many rows and break ups (he was very good at persuading me to take him back) I finally filed for divorce. I just couldn't be around his miserable, angry, lazy arse any more!!

I owned my own home when I met him and I was mortgage free. It was soley in my name and he always said he would NEVER touch my house. He came with nothing and had a big gambling habit (which I was not aware of) For the 3.5 years we were married, he gave me £100 a week house keeping and played golf 2-3 days a week. He was a bricklayer and worked 2 days a week. Said he was not interested in money, time was more important to him.

I was a single parent for 13 years with no financial help from their father. Always worked and never had any help from anyone. Just worked hard and bought and sold properties over the years that I had renovated, thus enabling me to end up mortgage free at 47.

Guess what, he fought me through the courts for everything I had worked so hard for and he was awarded £73,000 and it cost me £15,000 in solicitors and barristers fees.

He basically saw me coming !!!

I am so angry and even bitter. He screwed me over big time.

Remember the vows you make "all that I have I give to you" That is how the courts see it. Does not matter that it is yours. Once you marry, it becomes ours.

BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE

I think the indignant supportive responses are hilarious when you set them against other posts egging women on to get their ducks in order and copy all documents to screw their ex and on this one it is grossly unfair.

What this illustrates is that financial remedy in divorce is manifestly unfair when one party brings all the assets to a marriage, and even more so when it is a relatively short relationship.

Having said that, the situation is Improving compared with a few years ago. Spousal maintenance is fairly rare now, and more account is given to ore marital,assets, although there is this override according to the needs of the children. What I see now is people fighting for higher levels of child time at their premises to vastly increase the settlement.

I have to laugh at this - haven't men been saying this for years but now as it affects the woman it becomes unfair.

Those that have contributed the most in terms of assets or earn financial more feel this way because it is unfair.

Why should a parent receive more money for enabling the other parent to work. If that parent didnt work there would be no more. The parent isnt doing the work for their own benefit.

In Scotland. It is only the efforts of the marriage that is split equally. This must be an English ruling. The OP also does not say anything about kids or earnings.
Which would factor in.