Help needed for DM - A bloody mess...

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I don't really know where to start so desperately need some help.
My mum has found out some news about her "d"H yesterday and has left him. She's currently at my house, she's left with just her suitcase, so clothes, toiletries, we did pick up paperwork in regards to the house, passport etc.
She's a mess can't think straight, still loves him one minute and then hates him the next.
He's threatening suicide I think as a way to get her back after he got home to find her gone yesterday.
But I suppose the biggest problem is, he has controlled her for the past 34 years, she has no friends, fallen out with quite a lot of family because of him, she's have to her job when he moved her away for us so she was completely isolated which she only really cottoned on to yesterday when we explained it.
She has no job, no money, everything is in joint names, she's 64. She can't go home because he's there.
We just don't k or what to do? The house sale could raise her about £90k if she split that in half but that's not enough to buy a house etc, she has nothing to live on either and I know nothing about benefits or divorce or where we go from here when the dust settles, I just want to be able to reassure her that she's not going to end up in a grotty bedsit, skint, she can obviously stay here for 6 months or so but as much as I love her, I definitely can't make it permanent.
It's all such a bloody mess and I need help??

Wow that sounds hard. I think an appointment with a solicitor would be one of the first things I'd do - phone around your local ones and get a feel for which one(s) are Rottweiler-like in fighting for their clients in divorce cases. Also get in touch with the Citizens Advice Bureau to ask about benefits, and go on the government website to check too....

Also - understandably you don't want to give details here, but you say your mum "found out" something about her husband yesterday. Do you need to encourage her to visit a doctor or the police?

She doesn't want to involve the police but without going into it as I just can't both parties involved are in agreement about it ending here but mum may need the doctors, more because of her state of mind.
She keeps saying she loves him and it's so hard to hear. He's not my Dad, my Dad died many years ago unfortunately.
Thank you for your reply

Then, in this order:
Doctor
Solicitor
CAB / government website

Doctor - possibly with a view to longer term therapy

Lawyer (women's aid might be best for recommendations based on what you've said about him being controlling, manipulative, having probably committed a crime)

Your local welfare rights office - for benefits and housing advice

£90k is actually a lot of money. Where are you/she this wouldn't buy even a one bed flat?! Even London has one bed places in OK areas for that. Although it could take some time until the money gets to her (hence need for a good lawyer)

Can you or even better if you have brothers/male cousins or there's times her husband is out, go to hers and get the important things -

Papers, jewellery & other valuables, sentimental items (everything else can be replaced)?

Also add the possibility of accessing a share of her husband's pension on divorce.

£90k may be enough to buy if look at housing restricted to over 60’s. It won’t increase in value same way and can be harder to sell on but probably better quality than open market. Some councils even have over 60’s social housing without a waiting list. She can look at websites like entitledto.com to see what benefits may be entitled to and can get housing benefit while house is sold.

Thank you all for your help, I’ll look into all those things and see how it goes. It’s been a horrible horrible day.