How do i stop tortuninf myself

[Mcdonz]

My husband of 11years left me 6mths ago. After years of depression on my behalf (post natal and issue with my brother being ill) it got too much for him and he couldn't take anymore. We have 2 boys 7 and 4. Everything is amicable, I can't hate him. I tried to get on with it over Christmas and started dating. This really affected him but almost gave me the upper hand and I appeared to be coping. I've since stopped seeing the bloke and found out my ex (still can't get used to that) has been on a few dates with someone. The realisation that there is no way back and that he is defiantly not coming back is crusifying me. I feel like I am drowning. Everytime I see him I cry (Well sob) and I feel like I'm losing my mind. The pain is unbearable and I just don't know how to get through this. I try and be strong for the boys but I feel like I'm sinking. I don't know what to do!!

Please get yourself some support. See your gp. Medication isn't for everyone I know. But it will help settle your over whelming emotions. Ask about counselling and have a look if there is anything local to you from a charity.

Lean on friends and family. Let them support you. Just get through each day as best you can. It gets easier. But it takes time. It is a grieving process and you won't just feel fine over night. Try to do small things for yourself. New bedding. Move things around at home. Small changes really helped me.

I'm a year down the line and still want my old life back. But know this is it now. And keep my distance from ex. I can't handle it. Although it helps he has grown the most ridiculous beard and looks like a gnome.

Be kind to yourself.