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Divorce/separation

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soso78 · 17/01/2019 06:54

My ex partner has been verbally and emotionally abusive since I got pregnant. He was controlling and constantly went on about his family (parents and siblings) and how they were his priority.
He left when my daughter was 6 months old and has been in and out since, always trying to control and being verbally abusive. I have put my foot down now, i have tried for my daughter but it is not healthy and i do not love him anymore.

He is now threatening to have joint custody?! He hasn't worked for a year, we never married, he is on birth certificate. He lives in his parents empty house in east london while they live most of the year in Nigeria.

His parents are v old school and I have been warned they may be into dark things - they are v strange people and his father has said 'my beautiful granddaughter, i will take you to nigeria' a number of times.
My ex has told me she BELONGS to them as much as she does to me.

I really need advice - I have called the police and logged his behaviour a few times but he scares me what him and his family might do. Im terrified he and they will take my daughter to Nigeria.

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NewFitMe · 17/01/2019 07:48

They can’t take her out of country without your written consent. And if they do, it’s illegal and they will have to bring her back. I’d say get legal advise now and start logging everything he does

soso78 · 17/01/2019 08:35

Thank you, is there any free legal advice that you know of?

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NotBeingRobbed · 17/01/2019 08:39

Well although the law forbids travel without legal consent we all know people manage to take kids anyway. Letters can be forged and airlines do not necessarily check on children in a family group. Not being married should be in your favour. I don’t know how but you need to get 100% residency.

soso78 · 17/01/2019 09:00

Im british, my daughter has a british passport - he has both a british and nigerian passport.
I really need to know where I stand in terms of custody - I have been told by friends because im a single mum and unmarried I have full custody?

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soso78 · 17/01/2019 09:02

My daughter is mixed race. Half nigerian, half English

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