H and I separated in Nov 2017. Quite a nasty split. He’s been unfaithful a few times over 14 years. 3 beautiful DC’s, now ages 12, 9 and 6.
H drinks and isn’t particularly great as a parent for lots of reasons.
Yesterday he had the kids for 4.5 hours.
When they came back they were all upset. It turns out he told 6 year to stand outside the front door as a punishment. 6 year old did so. He left him out there, unable to getting back in for what sounds like about 25/30 mins. 6 YO sobbed to me he was frightened and cold and needed a wee and daddy wouldn’t let him back in. I have never been so distraught or angry. I confronted H, who swore at me. I pulled them all into the house and locked the door. All kids upset saying they don’t like daddy.
I’m heartbroken for my wee baby. What if someone had taken him!?
H then kept calling. I ignored but eventually answered. He heartened me so I hung back up. I text him to say I was going to call the police. Then he just text streams of abuse saying he didn’t want to see me or them ever again and he wasn’t going to give me a penny ever again.
I’m absolutely devastated for what happened to 6 YO. Fair enough he went out and shit the door himself ( H’s argument: ‘he went out of joan own accord’), but because H told him to and then he wouldn’t let him back in!!
What do I do? I am going to contact CMS in the morning on the way to work. I will have to muddle through with help from friends and family childcare wise. And I have told the kids they don’t have to go to his house again if they don’t want to. The boys seem ok. Daughter heartbroken as she worships her dad, but even she has said he’s mean.