Letter to each parent

[Holly0095]

Hello all,
So I'm in a tricky situation "my parents are divorcing" still not 100% gotten my head around it and due to family circumstances my dad is only just now moving out, this whole process has been going on for the past year already, as you ca imagine our house is rather tense...both my Mum and Dad constantly at war with each other and me and my sisters stuck in the middle.
My dad moves out on Monday next week and although I'm still in a real muddle I still want to write him a letter and tell him how I feel. I want him to no that I don't blame him but that I also
Still Love him and want to see him.
They've been together now nearly 30years so as a 24 year old myself it's hit me hard, I feel at a serious loss for words and I don't no how to even start such an emotional letter to him.

I feel a little bit like my childhood was slightly fake now and it's left my head in all of a mush with emotional roller coasters everywhere!!! All very tough to deal with I might be an adult but they are still my parents, I just want him to no how much I still care and no matter how far away he is, he is still my dad :/ any help.......?

Hi Holly,

Sorry to read about your parents' divorce and sorry to see you haven't had any replies yet. My parents are also getting divorced after nearly 40 years of marriage (I'm in my early 30s). Although the rest of my situation is quite different from yours, I wanted to respond to your question and to let you know you're not the only one going through this.

I think writing to your dad to let him know that you still love him and don't blame him for what's happened, if that's how you feel, is a good idea.

If you're struggling to start the letter, maybe try writing down the thoughts you are having in any order, with the intention of coming back to them later to put into a letter format. It might help to get all your thoughts and feelings down on paper, even if they're single words, to help sort through what you want to say. You can then figure out which ones you want to include in a letter to your dad.

I'd also suggest that you talk to your mum to let her know that you're writing a letter to your dad. I wouldn't necessarily share the contents of the letter, but I'd want her to know so she doesn't feel like things are being hidden from her (or that you're siding with him, for example) if she was to find out later that you've written to him.

Best of luck with the letter, and I hope that your parents' divorce goes as smoothly as it can.

By the way, I thought the following two phrases that you used in your original post would be good points to include in your letter:

I want him to no that I don't blame him but that I also
Still Love him and want to see him.

I just want him to no how much I still care and no matter how far away he is, he is still my dad

"I don't blame you. I still love you and want to see you. I want you to know that I still care and no matter how far away you are, you are still my dad."