Should I buy my "ex" step child a Christmas present?

[Rennalouise1992]

Hi all

Was wondering if you could offer me a bit of "what would you do" advice.
So long story short me and my ex where friends before our relationship started and maintained that friendship for a time after we split. We where together for 5 years and have known each other for 10.
Although we truly loved each other unfortunately our relationship was turbulent as my ex suffers from a mental illness and although it never effected his ability to be the brilliant father he is unfortunately he did treat me great.
Unfortunately 6 months ago my ex decided he no longer wanted to maintain outer friendship once I started dating again. Th saddest part for me was that this meant I could no longer see his 10 year daughter who I was incredibly close to and miss so much.
I really wanted to drop a Christmas card off and a little present for his daughter but I'm worried this may come across slightly strange and wanted some unbiased opinions on this matter?

Anything insight you can offer world be great.
Merry Christmas all!

If you haven’t been in touch with the daughter since you ceased contact with him, I’d say leave it. It’s nice that you want to send her something but if my ex boyfriend wanted to send my DCs cards or gifts after we’d split I’d find it a bit intrusive.

I know you have good intentions but presumably she has a mum and other family to buy her gifts. You need to move on.

I have a 15yo ex-stepson (that sounds weird) and I did get him a present. I left his dad 6 months ago but I've been in his life since he was 4yo and still do see him occasionally when he gives up some of his time to see his sister (My dd)