Does ex have to know our address?

[ShiningStar1990]

Hi all,

I need some advice. I have recently come out of a emotional and mental abusive relationship, it was controlling and awful, we have a 14 month daughter together. I take anti depression tablets for the anxiety caused and see a counsellor weekly.
I currently live at his Dads rented property which I am moving out of in 2 weeks due to damp, mould and the gas lighting from him and his Dad.
Do I have to tell him where we are living? He sees his daughter every other weekend and want to put in place where he collects and drops her off somewhere else rather than at our house. We are due to go to mediation as he wants more access to his daughter but he has a history of drink and drugs so I don't feel comfortable him having her any more as well as she is unsettled being dragged back and forth between houses constantly. I was wondering if I had to tell him our new address? Thanks

No you don’t . I left my ex via refuge.

When I divorced my ex , my solicitor had to apply to the court to keep my address confidential which was approved .

What I would say is you will wait say 15 minutes at ... for collection not waiting till he turns up.

Given the history you describe I don’t think it would be unreasonable at all to withhold your address. I think I’d be pushing for access via a contact centre as well - depending on the circumstances many contact centres can be utilised for handover, but I’d personall want supervised contact if I were to be concerned about drink, drugs, general risk taking behaviour etc.

Can I just say to him you don't need to know my address?

I'm scared of the consequences from him and his family if I tell someone about his drug abuse. I've allowed her to spend time with him since June so I'm not sure where I now stand with putting a stop to this. Before I was weak towards him, I was scared of what would happen of I spoke of his drug issue. I feel stronger now but still scared.

Legally you both have the right not to give each other your addresses or locations you are going to have your child in, in England and Wales plus you can prevent each other from going to each other houses. The reason for doing the latter is because it is not in the child's best interests to have their separated/divorced parents fighting/arguing/threatening each other at either of the homes they are going to stay in.

Thank you Amy for posting this.

We are due to attend meditation soon so I will be saying within mediation he is not to come to my house and I do not go to his and we meet somewhere to do the handover. The current house I live in he currently picks our daughter up drops her off, I have provided a handover book of any information we need to know about whether she has reached a new milestone of for example i have now introduced cutlery to her and can he do the same at his house. This is so we don't have to talk and can just do the swap without arguing. He has proved he isn't even capable of that as he gives me abuse on the door step and rings me giving me abuse when she is with him.
I'm lost for ideas now of how to keep him out of my life as much as possible without it affecting my daughter.
Any ideas would be fab.