Court order - child arrangement

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Will court listen to the views of 10 yrs old that he doesnt want to stay at night at dads? Any experience with that please???

Depend what the reason are and if they think the child has be lead to
Make that decision.
My dc decided to stop sleeping at their dad's and he let it go, which I wasn't best pleased about.
It's been two years now, youngest stayed the other night as they were going away for a week and thought it was good to get used to sleeping at his again. Dc didn't like it but still enjoyed the holiday.

(All that time i did encourage him to go) He starts to panic now though so Im very worried - its the nights, they are told to sleep alone and he is very afraid. (It doesnt help that younger is waking up at night and then they both "wait" for morning). Thanks for sharing your experiences.

What do you mean "nights they have to sleep alone". Hope you don't mean left alone whilst in bed.

You need to understand better why he doesn't want to stay over. Given that it is his wishes, and if you are in good terms with your ex and he can see it isn't you trying to engineer it you could work out a joint solution between you all.

The court will a child's views into account but at 10 to a lesser extent than say a teenager. They seem these days to be more prepared to enforce contact with the non resident parent but as I said earlier, it totally depends on the individual circumstances

Having said that, trying to force a 10 year old to stay, especially if he kicks off may be the worst thing and mean he won't see his dad at all

My daugher was 11 and refused to see her dad at all. I tried everything to pursuade her but she had seen amd heard too much. The court and cafcass said he should win her respect back and she doesnt have to see him. 8 months later and he madr no effort to win her round so she is with me full time. X