DS (9 years old) told by ex that mummy's not to find out ex's girlfriend's name...

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I really am glad ex has a girlfriend, he might be a better father whilst he's pretending to her he's a nice person.
What I'm concerned over is that DS came home from ex's telling me that Daddy's told him it's really important he keeps daddy's girlfriend's name a secret from mummy.
I get it right, it's none of my business who she is, but telling my child to keep a secret from me goes against all Pants, child safety etc. Anyone else had this and any advice on what to say?

I'm guessing the girlfriend is someone you know and either thought was a friend, or is someone you hate. Or he has such a massive ego that he assumes you'll give a shit what her name is.

It's tricky - you have to find a way to convey to him that a) asking a child to keep secrets is bad and wrong, b) it's also pointless, because DS told you anyway being a nice, honest boy and also c) that you don't give a toss what her name is unless it's Katie Hopkins.

I would tell DS that he is never to have secrets from you but he can keep surprises like a birthday present etc. I would tell DC that it doesn't matter who ex's gf is he can date whoever he like.

It's potentially dangerous for DC to think they should keep secrets!!!

What an idiot!