I'm not in love with my husband anymore...Married for 5.5yrs, together for 11yrs. We have 4 young children.
Last December I discovered that my H had been sneaking about and inappropriately messaging one of his clients.
Up until this point things were great, or so I had thought.
He buried his head in the sand and refused to discuss it but assured me there had been no physical relationship between them.
I forgave him and tried to move on.
Then in June, another one, another client, another string of inappropriate messages... also a rumour flying around town that they had slept together. I told him we were over.
Our youngest child became seriously ill in August and was in hospital 150miles from home, I stayed with her whilst she was in hospital for 16 weeks and he 'looked after' our other 3 children at home.
The separation/divorce was put on hold as I couldn't deal with it whilst my little one was so unwell. And he refused to swap places with me as he said I only wanted to come home to sort the divorce out.
He did nothing with the children when we were not there, the children said he sent them all upstairs all the time and was constantly on his phone.
During this time, he invited another woman that works with him to our home - on my birthday! - and she claimed to have slept with him.
Once again, he claims this is not true, it was mistaken identity and it was another one of his colleagues!!
Then 3 weeks ago, I logged onto his Instagram and saw him messaging another one, I was still in the hospital at this point, and called him out on it (and her!) straight away, they were both horrified that I had seen everything and stopped all contact.
I told him that we were done, that I could not do this anymore, but I'm still here. Like an idiot!!!
I can't afford to divorce him, the house is his and he will fight to keep every penny.
Our youngest now has 2 chronic conditions as a result of the illness she had in the summer and I really don't know what to do.