So confused

[Sarah8410]

Hello
I told my verbally abusive husband at the beginning of September that I did not want to be with him any longer, I mentally had enough and was and am at breaking point.. it's been hell ever since.
He's finally agreeing to do mediation, but he has told me his terms are : he will leave the family home to live with his mother, but when he has our kids, (every other weekend and poss day in the week)
he will come back to family home and I have to leave to stay with my mum !
I'm so confused I just said yes, but is this a normal arrangement ?
I don't know what to say to him ?
Help I feel like completely deflated ! ☹️

he will come back to family home and I have to leave to stay with my mum !

Never heard of an arrangement like that before. Sounds like he does not really want to accept its over and is still trying to control you.

Good luck

How very strange ! But I’ve heard of stranger. Like I know a woman who stayed with her husband in the marital home but moved her lover in too ! The three of them agreed !

Yes it sounds to me op that he’s not ready to let go. It might be an easy way round the problem for a while. But I feel more sorry for his mum, as at her time of life she could do without her son moving in surely., but it depends on her circumstances.

The mediator will take into account your view and hopefully he will be more reasonable with a third party there, speaking from experience, make sure you stick up for yourself and what you want, remain polite but calmly say that won't work for you - no need to justify why either
Good luck