Okay, so my wife walked out on me 6 months ago and left me to care singlehandedly for two children (3 and 8) for 6 weeks. She then rented a house and we agreed on shared care 50/50. She then came back to me pleading for forgiveness, she wanted me back, was going to change etc.. We agreed that we would both work to become better individuals before committing to being a couple again, and give it until Christmas. 5 weeks ago we both went away for the night and talked openly and honestly and reconnected. It was perfect, and we agreed we continue doing what we are doing but it was looking increasingly like we could try again. At no point did we communicate this to the kids as we didnt want to confuse them.
4 weeks after our weekend away, she told me, whilst the kids were present, that she has filed for divorce, that she has met someone else, doesn't want me anymore, and that she is really happy. She had met the new guy 1 week after our weekend away.
So, it later transpired thay she had published her new relationship on social media, used the debit card from the joint account (which contained only my money used for paying the bills for the family home she walked out of) to pay for the celebratory champagne used as the backdrop for the social media announcement.
I then had my 8 year old daughter break down in tears, but refusing to tell me why.
Turns out its because her mum had told her a week earlier she had a new boyfriend, and that she musnt tell me about him. She had to keep the secret for a week.
That same day, she was introduced to the new boyfriend (as was the 3 year old but he's oblivious), at her mum's house, then taken to view another house where she was told mummy was moving there with new boyfriend, and his two children, and that she would be sharing a bedroom with his daughter whom she hasn't met yet.
I have had the kids this week and my 8 year old daughter is an emotional wreck. She says she feels sad when she sees the new guy, that mummy keeps lying to her, and that she doesnt want to see him.
I have tried to contact my ex about this but she has blocked me on everything so can't. I even messaged the new partner through Facebook to say Iim sure hes a nice guy and i'd like to meet him if he's going to be playing a material part in my children's life, but he blocked me also. Now I have an upset 8 year old due to go to her mum's tomorrow but doesn't want to go in case the new boyfriend is there, but I've no way of contacting her to talk about this.
If anyone has any suggestions how I can resolve this, I'd love to hear them - I have requested a mediation appointment with my ex ( prior to her blocking me) so that we can discuss the situation but she has just ignored me.