Newly separated- invited to couples dinner party

[GingerKat24]

A good friend of mine (divorced) is in a new relationship & has arranged a dinner party with 2 other couples and me (recently separated). We (women) are all good friends. AIBU - I just feel really weird about it. I’m so happy for her & want to meet him but I feel like I’ll be a spare part at the evening as the lone single. It also makes me feel quite emotional & sad about my situation. Should I go or do I risk upsetting her by saying I can’t face it?

She could have asked another single as well?

It does sound like that scene in Bridget Jones. You could always make an excuse if you aren't up to it.

Why is it a couples evening though? They are going with their partners/boyfriends, sure, but I wouldn't have clicked that you going alone would be odd at all.

I’d look at this from another side - it would be way worse if she didn’t invite you because you were single now. If you feel vulnerable than of course don’t go but I’ve been told by a friend once she would have invited me to a get together but she didn’t want me to feel left out because it’d be all couples
Because being told you are not invited to a
party because you’re single is not at all like being left out...

I always hung around with my ‘couple’ friends when I was single. They were all my friends so I never felt like a spare part. I think it’s more mind over matter. Don’t go thinking it’s a couples evening, go thinking you’re meeting with friends.

I think it's only an issue if you make it so. It really doesn't matter if there is an odd number at a party. It's not like people only ever converse in even numbered groups. Go, have fun, and be happy for your friend.

I can see that it would look strange if she didn’t invite me & I know if I tell her how I feel she’ll be ‘ don’t be like that, we want you to be there’ etc. I don’t know why I feel so weird about it - I guess the separation is still fairly recent & I haven’t been out socially in a situation like this yet, prior to this I’ve only been out with the girls.

Go and enjoy yourself