Will I ever be happy again

[Cdavies15]

Husband left 8 months ago now, we had been together for 12 years. He said he wasn't in love with anymore and very quickly was with a women from his work who I had suspected he has feelings for a long time ago.

I am in such a better place than I was and have focused on my beautiful two year old little boy. I have recently started seeing someone and he is lovely but I can't help but feel like how to I build a relationship. He has a child too, we haven't yet met each other's children as early days. I still have moments of crying and feeling like my whole world is falling apart, when will that stop and when will I believe I can have a happy life?! I'm 28 years old and just feel like I don't know what I'm doing or where I'm going.

I thought posting on here and hearing other people's stories might help.

You spent 12 years with your ex. It takes time. All the logic in the world won’t change that. You need time to accept that all those plans will never happen, that trust was betrayed.

Having a new relationship is nice to have some fun but don’t assume it will be anything more than that. Just enjoy yourself, get plenty of rest and don’t expect too much of either of you.

Awww bless you, yes you will be happy again. Having been where you are I suggest you take the relationship as it comes - don’t put pressure on yourself/each other.

I didn’t meet my dp’s children for a good 10mths, obviously a different situation to yours as we are both older so the children are older.

Just enjoy the time you spend together and take it all a day at a time.

Thank you for your lovely comments it's nice to hear that how I'm feeling is normal! I'm not going into the new relationship expecting anything it's just refreshing to be treated well and have someone to occasionally keep me company when I have haven't got my little boy. I have found the times he is with his dad very hard and lonely!

I guess it's just time I started the process of filing for divorce today and had a good cry. I just feel like I failed and it's hard to shake that feeling.