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Divorce/separation

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No longer love husband

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pocketfullofsunshine · 01/11/2018 20:53

Hi guys, fully prepared for the bashing I’m more than likely going to get but I thought I’d come here for advice..
So basically me and DH have a 3 year old son who we adore dearly.
However things just aren’t the same in my marriage. Following a car crash DH was diagnosed with anxiety and depression (as have I)
For the past year he’s been turning to smoking cannabis as a way to help deal with his anxiety. He’s increasingly smoking it more and more but not actually doing anything to help his anxiety for him or us. I understand his anxiety as I have it myself yet I manage to make sure my son is taken to preschool and recently enrolled to college to better myself.
All the while he sits at home playing video games. We’ve had so many arguments over him smoking and he thinks I speak to my friends more than him now.
I’ve desperately tried to salvage this marriage. I’m only 27 and just feel like it’s getting to the point I can do no more.
He loses his temper very quickly (especially when driving) and in my opinion overly strict with our son.
Previous arguments have turned into me compromising with him and cannabis as he’s outright told me he won’t stop..

Just needed some advice from people who aren’t in the equation..

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pocketfullofsunshine · 01/11/2018 20:54

Urgh! Didn’t mean for it post so soon!!

I feel like I’m losing the love and respect that I once had for my husband

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Drawtheline14 · 01/11/2018 21:05

The fact that he’s taking cannabis and spends his days playing video games he sounds very immature! I would definitely try and work things through, being in love with your spouse won’t always feel like that ‘in love’ kind of love but more the familiar kind. BUT I’d definitely tell him if he carries on doing drugs that he has to go. Did he lose his temper quickly before taking drugs? Otherwise this could easily be a side effect.
I would also gather evidence of him using drugs, report him if you have to because you don’t want someone looking after your son overnight whilst he’s using.

pocketfullofsunshine · 01/11/2018 22:31

No he has completely changed from the person I knew and fell in love with.
I just feel like he’s not a person I know anymore.
I have lots of texts of us talking about him talking about smoking weed and stuff? Don’t know if that will count.

I just feel at a total loss.
I’ve asked him to go to couples counselling and he just won’t x

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