I could really do with some advice..
So H decided that he no longer loves me and after about 9 months of torture where I begged him to try and work it out, he moved out in March as a trial separation.
This was supposed to be for 6 months but in June he told me by text message that he wasn't coming back.
So we have been together for 17 years, married for 13. We have 4 children, one of whom has a disability. I have been a SAHM pretty much always but managed to get a part time job cleaning since he moved out.
H has a professional career but is working part time at the moment, he says in order to be there for the kids but essentially just a lifestyle choice.
So he would have it that we have the kids 50 50 but I feel that this is really motivated by the fact that he doesn't want to pay me any money. He has been paying the mortgage since he ended things in lieu of child support but he is really mad about this because it is more money than he can really afford as he is working part time and paying quite expensive rent on his new house.
I started seeing a solicitor who very much told me not to take over paying the mortgage, but H keeps threatening to stop.. which would put me in the position of having to file for divorce and go quickly to court over it.
I guess my hesitation is that if he is court ordered to pay the mortgage, he will have to work full time again and I will be completely on my own with the kids and struggle to ever have a life or career for myself due to Dds disability..
Also obviously court could not go my way and he get 50 50?
But if I accept taking over payment of the mortgage am I going to regret it in some way? He is offering to pay me £350 a month child support for now if I do take over mortgage which is about double that?
Sorry if I'm missing stuff out.. I'm a lurker not a poster usually!
I would just really appreciate some advice..