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Ex making demands

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Angelmummy999 · 22/10/2018 21:26

My ex left when our wee girl was 7 mths old and we had a long drawn out court battle with him and he got access (2 full weekends and 1 Saturday visit every month) it has been that way for years and at Christmas time I have her on Xmas day and he has her for a few days starting on boxing day. New year's is alternative years with each other. Now he moved to 23 miles away and travels down on the train to collect my wee girl from the train station instead of picking her up from the house, now he wants us to start travelling halfway and picking her up or dropping her off at the big train station in Glasgow, and he wants to have her on alternative Christmas. The contact arrangements have been in place for most of my wee girl's young life and I have followed the court order to the point in fear of him dragging me back to court for contempt, I even allowed him to pick my wee girl up on the Friday night instead of the Saturday morning to make it easier for him and he got a wee bit of more time with her. Do i have to agree to these new proposals of his. Please help I feel like going back to my lawyer and getting legal advice as I am feeling anxious and feel like my depression is creeping back into my life because of stress.

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Aprilislonggone · 22/10/2018 21:27

How old is your dd?

Angelmummy999 · 22/10/2018 22:04

She is now 9yrs old.

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BlueBug45 · 22/10/2018 22:31

Go back to your lawyer and don't be scared.

The drop off and pick up are reasonable as it stands - he's the one who decided to move - but unfortunately the Christmas arrangements you have aren't reasonable. All holidays should be alternate unless you have a good reason why they can't be.

Also stop letting him pick her up on Friday as it is one of your daughter's chances to have a proper relationship with you.

Angelmummy999 · 22/10/2018 22:43

My husband and I both work on alternative weekends that tie in for the times we have my wee girl but we work the weekends when she is away with my ex and we are in work where we are expected to work weekends. The way the contact works is 1 full weekend contact Fri night to Sun night at 6pm, 1 Friday night to sat night at 6pm, 1 full weekend contact as stated above, no contact at all one weekend.

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