Divorce on unreasonable behaviour

[lilli30101968]

Hello i have sent papers to court asking my husband for divorce because of his behaviour i dont see him anymore everyday
Single day he is out been going on for years . I have talk and talk no change i even 2 years ago ask him to separate he said no he loves me blabla... . He received his papers but we havent talk about finance 2 children 14 and 18 ( uni) , property married for 19 years . He was not honest and I found out a week ago he is cheating on me is that something i can put against him if he does not agree about my entilment want to do it amicably . Also can u date someone while Divorce is on going ? Advice plse thxs

Finance will come after the decree nisi but before the absolute. Yes you can date and makes little difference seeing as you have filed against him for unreasonable behaviour. Do you mean he previously cheated or is seeing someone now? If you are separated then he’s doing nothing wrong, the eyes of the courts it’s adultery still when married but again it makes no difference to finances

In the eyes of the law, it’s what is fair to both parties and allows both to move on. Your 18 year old is an adult now so unlikely to be factored into any asset split.

To OP

Settlements don't often take into account behaviour that lead to the Divorce. However, domestic violence of running up debts may be factored in.

Try to settle amicably if you can otherwise Legal costs can spiral out of control rapidly. My divorce cost 35K as ex turned it into a revenge contest. She ended up with a much settlement than I had offered 2 years earlier due to the money that was spent on Legal.

Total cost to myself was same regardless of whether money was spent on Legal of given to ex wife. Why she could not work out for herself that the more that was spent on Legal the less there would be at the end for anyone shall forever remain a mystery?

Good luck

Thanks Baby1onboard11 I am not sure if he cheats in the past but He is seeing someone right not but denied. We are not separate leaving in the same house .
@miss the boat again I want to do it amicably cant afford spending too much on solicitors he agree for me to keep the house does it mean i wont touch his pension ?

Courts do not care about why the relationship ended or adulterous. Only in the US does it matter.

he agree for me to keep the house does it mean i wont touch his pension ?

These are the sort of thing that need to be thrashed out. If you keep the house it means you will have an asset to rely on on the future in old age. Likewise he will have a pension for his old age.

Remember both partners have needs and the Courts will make an order that reflects that both have needs. However, who gets what is not only based on what they need, but also what is available.

With the exception of wealthy couples it is likely that both partners will have to change their lifestyle accordingly (ie downwards). I can't imagine any circumstances where an order would be made that resulted in one partner living the high life whilst the other was plunged into hardship to fund the other.