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Mediation tomorrow - nervous

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Spotify · 04/10/2018 19:32

My first mediation session tomorrow by myself. Don't know what to expect but I am hoping they can tell me whether or not he replied to their invitation as we've not spoken for a few weeks nor has he mentioned it. I don't think he will have but I might be surprised.
Will they be able to let me know?
I have not yet filed but intend to do so after this session so I have a better idea of where I stand.

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Goldilocks3Bears · 04/10/2018 22:57

If you’ve not spoken then I assume he’s accepted as the mediator would have otherwise let you know?

My mediation was about as effective as setting fire to the money it cost.

I understand you’re nervous but be strong xx

Lily007 · 06/10/2018 11:16

I had my MIAM alone 2 weeks ago. I received a text last Monday advising STBXH has agreed to attend his MIAM, however, they would not tell me when his appointment is.

The first appointment is nothing to worry about. The mediator just explains the process and provides you with a list of documents you’ll each need to exchange should the face to face mediation go ahead.

I’m nervously waiting for notification he’s attended his MAIM and whether he’s agreed to a face to face session 😬

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Spotify · 06/10/2018 11:41

Hi Lily, It went Ok by myself. Mediator said he has made an appointment in next week or so and she will call me to let me know if he turns up or not. Same as you really!! I was very surprised he had made an appointment tbh!
Mediator said she won't wait if he keeps putting it off or leave me hanging. I have a solicitor appointment lined up too.
Have you actually filed yet?

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Spotify · 06/10/2018 11:43

Goldilocks that first session was planned by myself sorry, probably didn't come across right in the OP. Fingers crossed. x

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Lily007 · 06/10/2018 12:28

Hi Spotify

Yes I filed the petition online on 20 August, he was served 3 September. I received copy acknowledgement of service on Thursday. He’s admitted adultery.

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Spotify · 06/10/2018 12:37

:( sorry Lily. I haven't filed yet. Can I do it by myself or do I need solicitor to help write it?

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Spotify · 06/10/2018 12:43

I'm also waiting to see on what grounds to do it. If he's amicable with mediation I'll try the 2 years separation but if not unreasonable beahviour if that makes sense?

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Lily007 · 06/10/2018 18:57

I submitted my divorce application online and I found it fairly straightforward. I should mention I do have a legal background, although in civil litigation rather than matrimonial.

Also, I cited adultery and he’s admitted it so pretty simple process.

I’m sure if you both agree to divorce on the ground of 2 year separation it should be as simple 🤞

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