After crap advice from solicitors and looking at costs and after initial anger all round me and my ex decided to do the entire divorce process ourselves.
We met for lunch every month to discuss progress and did the whole process online. It was tough as at times I felt so angry as did he.
But we felt more angry at the drama whipped up by solicitors.
20 year marriage, I agreed to pay him £10,000 as although the house was in joint names it was originally mine.
Consent order was agreed immediately by the court to our surprise, we thought we's have to go to court to discuss it.
Whole thing cost next to nothing and no solicitors fees. Now we can get on with our lives.
if you can do it then do it. It's a good idea to get the consent order drawn up by a solicitor as it will be rejected if it isn't perfect.
Even though he petitioned and we did everything on time it still took two years as the courts are so slow.
But it's done now and at very little cost. i think it's important to swallow your pride and thoughts of revenge and just do it yourself.
Not always possible I know, certainly wasn't with my first marriage but I seem to have come through it relatively unscathed.