Contesting a divorce

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Husband has filed for divorce. I’ve not had the papers yet, but he’s just said that if I want to contest it, I can put it in the credit card as ‘it’s only fair’. What does that even mean? I know that contesting means spending lots of money and will probably get me nowhere, but why would he want me to do that?

I wonder if what he means is that he doesn’t want you to get your own separate legal advice.

He means that if you want to defend, then you'll have to pay for it. Most people don't defend. There's no point and it could be very expensive.

Who cares what it means. He wants a divorce. Let him have it.

I don’t want a divorce. I think he’s having a midlife crisis and doesn’t know what he wants.

He wants me to get legal advice as well. My head is all over the place x

Unless you have been separated more than 5 years he would not be able to force a divorce unless he has evidence of your unreasonable behaviour or adultery? And by unreasonable it has to be serious behaviours.
When you get the papers just say you don't agree and want to wait. Sounds like a difficult situation op

Please do get legal advice.

So you don't want a divorce? You can choose to contest it. But would you want to? If he doesn't want to be married he can just wait and apply again. Eventually you won't be able contest it. It will be expensive and pointless

Has he moved out? What are his grounds? You must get good legal advice.

He has moved out but I dont know what his grounds are until the petition arrives. I’m not going to contest it, I’ve decided it’s not worth it. I love him and desperately want to work things out but I’m going to just let him go. When is the best time to tell the kids? I want it to come from him, but I want to be there for them x

To OP. Contesting a Divorce seldom works (although the recent Owens case suggests otherwise). Even if you did contest all your Husband has to do is to live elsewhere for 5 years and then divorce can't be prevented.

Well. If it hasn’t been two years and you don’t consent, the only grounds he could pursue are your adultery or your unreasonable behaviour.