It's years since we divorced but she still won't leave me alone

[Followmedown]

Hi all,
I would be grateful for any advice. My ex wife is causing massive problems by constantly emailing every day, three years plus after the divorce (I'm also remarried now).
The messages basically boil down to 'give me more money', though I pay her the agreed amount (consent order) every month on time. She always wants to send the kids on various trips, etc and demands money from me.
I have no money, she is convinced I have been given thousands by my parents since the divorce - during the divorce my parents had to write to her solicitor to deny they had given me money I was hiding - now she regularly accuses me and my mother of fraud via email.
I have blocked her phone calls and texts and try not to respond on email which I reserve for communicating re kids.
She has recently started calling my workplace and texting with my son's phone (even pretending to be him) in order to get at me.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with this type of situation - it is extremely stressful and I've had 6 years of it now. Thanks in advance for any help/suggestions.

Contact the police and ask them to warn her that her behaviour could be construed as harassment. I did this when my ex started emailing me at work, because that's a real infringement on my privacy. Havent heard a peep since.

Thanks for the reply - I've blocked her at work on email but she copies everything sends to that address as the spam reports tell me...

If you truly want to stop the harassment you need to goto the police. If she then tries to cause a problem re you seeing the children then you'll need to go down the road of sorting that out too.

OK thanks for that - though I don't like the idea of doing it. However, now she is also harrassing my mother/other members of my family...

One visit from the police which means she potentially leaves you alone? Can’t see why you don’t like the idea. Especially if she’s harassing your family.

Yes, thanks. Seems you're right.

Yep, police. I realise it's distasteful to you, but she's overstepped the mark here, not you.

Agree with pp. Police.

You need to contact the police honestly otherwise this will continue..

Well if she's harassing your mum and other family members..in their shoes I'd not be best pleased that you hadn't at least tried to put a stop to it via legal channels, even if not police but a solicitor letter which may frighten her enough to make her stop. & I'd also be worried about the children. There's nothing to stop any of them calling the police, for all you know

If you're scared to get police involved you could just warn her "if she doesn't stop you'll call the police on her" if she calls your bluff then please get police involved.

To OP I had same. Police issued a PIN and warned ex to stay away from myself and my parents home.

I’d suggest all involved family members each file seperate reports with the Police.

I would at least give her a warning that unless she stops so much contact you will consider going to the police rather than rushing off to the police about it.

Could you just ignore most of the emails? Hard to ignore a call supposedly from your son however unless you set up a set time every few days your son will call you at. Tell work not to put calls to work from her through to you.

Not easy.

@followmedown my DP is in exactly the same position as you. His ex has pursued a pretty relentless hate campaign for over 18 months now and there seems to be no sign of it stopping. He has spoken to the police and depressingly, they don't seem awfully interested. She has had solicitors' letters and is now blocked on everything except emails (as they are still trying to sell the house).

I sympathise as it's bloody wearing. Keep blocking, keep deleting calls and keep records of everything.