Divorced new single mum

[Pixie2018]

Can anyone tell me how to cope when u feel so alone? I lost my family and husband in the divorce. I have a bf but he is horrible to me. I feel so alone

I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time.

What's happening with your bf? Why are you with him if he's horrible to you op?

Hugs to you, OP. What's going on with your bf?

Thank u very much. My bf pouts every time he disagrees with something and doesnt speak fr days unless i do first. He is very selfish n i realise that he has not been there fr me at all but I m struggling t break up with him cause i feel so alone...

Pixie - what's your situation? Has b/f moved in? If not - get rid. It has to be 'perfect'. You have a chance of living life to the full.

Get rid; work on yourself and wait for the right person. Yes it's bloody tough being divorced lonely and single but there are many of us and we all want to get through it to be the best that we can be. for you..

Im 10 weeks and 4 days into a divorce. I have 4 kids at home and I am horribly lonely. Its like an empty hole inside of me, but I also still know in my head that I am so much better off without the monster I've kicked out. Please don't settle for someone who's horrible - its better to be alone than with someone who treats you badly. It does start to get easier - I am better than I was a month ago and I know I'll be better again in another month. I'm working on my image, getting healthy, and I've taken up reading again. Find some things you enjoy doing and take up support wherever you find it x

No i dont live with my bf. Met him in work n i went fr him as he seemed lovely. However he is very selfish n has no time fr me. We spent time together as he has a daughter my age but we hardly have time for ourselves. Every time he disagrees with me he pouts n doesnt talk t me fr days. I cant do this crap anymore.

Yes i def think its time fr me to stand up fr myself n tell him where t go. Thanks guys fr all ur support. It means so much t me. Xx

Sorry meant t say has a daughter same age as mine.

I'm almost 9 months into being a single mum, just managed to get a place of my own and I'm starting to feel very happy alone. I can't imagine ever wanting to live with a man again.

I have all the time in the world for my DS now, and we have lots of fun. He's the only member of the male species I want to live with!

OP, if your BF isn't nice to you, you must end it. Life is too short to spend your precious time with someone like that. I'm a firm believer in having to learn to be alone before accepting someone new into your lives. It gets so much better as time goes on. I used to dread my DS going to bed, because I would feel so alone... I don't know, once he's snuggled in bed I have a glass of wine and Netflix. It's lovely.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

Get rid of this bf and start enjoying your life. I turned to exercise and have recently taken up Stand Up Paddleboarding which I love. Work on you! Occupy yourself with positive things that enhance your life. There is no need to "have" a man. Work on making you happy... I enjoy any free time I get now as I see it as a reward rather than dreading alone time. Reading is great as it gives you an escape from reality and helps you sleep. Definitely lose the current drain!

Thank u all fr the advice. I think whats making me lonely is being with the wrong people rather than being alone itself. I need t spend time getting to know me rather than waste time on the wrong people. Sounds like you have all done well.

Pixie - you will get through this. Honestly - take time for yourself and as a Pp said, have fun with your little one.

You say you also lost your family through the divorce - no wonder you feel alone. What happened there? Hugs X

You can do it, you are worth so much more than feeling like this too. You and your daughter can be so much happier xx

I am 11 months in. Ok, honestly you feel lonely because of the boyfriend. Did you get with him very soon after the split? Honestly, I found it was more likely being around shit people. Nothing worse that feeling lonely when you are with someone.

Notacluewhatthis is how do u cope with being lonely? Yes i got together with him too soon. He promised the earth but now I feel as alone as i did with my ex. Sometimes i think its me but deep down i know its not. They r both not nice people.it looks like im picking the wrong ones :(

Not nice people spot vulnerability. You were vulnerable when your relationship ended. I met someone too soon. I ended it because it became intense. I was lucky. He was a good guy and we remained friends and have recently got back together. What I learnt though, in our time apart, was to embrace the lonely. When I was at home alone I forced myself to feel it. Then it became less intense. I now enjoy living alone. I love dp but I have been clear that we won't be rushing in to living together. In the end I think it's made me much more comfortable with myself.

Thank u fr ur advice. U nailed it in the head. Vulnerable is right n i wont let that happen again. Sometimes im ok on my own. Sometimes it hits me. I will be ok. Congrats on ur relationship hope u will be very happy