So STBXH had an affair which I discovered and confronted him with just over a year ago. He denied it for weeks but eventually found 'enough' to throw him out. Ridiculously cruel and at times absurd ending to our 15 yr relationship and 3 year marriage with DC1 (now 3yrs old)
He went immediately to live with OW and they're still together. Due to nature of split and his immaturity negotiated good settlement in the immediate fallout of discovery when he was guilty. All equity in house signed over and about 30% of his income in child maintenance/spousal.
Since the initial agreement and while divorce has been rumbling on he's had time to reconsider/OW has learnt more details and he's often threatened to renege on it or scale it back. Solicitor has warned that as I earn more a hearing was likely and to keep him on side. The last few months have been a mix of fear that he'll use maintenance cuts to punish me (He cut it once when he found out I was dating, but not below CMS minimum) and a lot of tongue biting about missed contact weekends/constantly equating my dating with his relationship.
So anyway- on Friday consent order arrived! No hearing! It's all been agreed by judge. He can't hurt me with house/cash threats any more and I can finally get divorced. On Friday I felt so elated but today I just feel odd- drained, nostalgic... What gives? How long does this last? Is it normal?!