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How does CSA work

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earthwindfirewater · 05/09/2018 01:49

My ex partner wants to take me to the CSA, however I already give him money and I have the children at the weekends so I have to pay for them when their with me. I buy them clothes, shoes and give them pocket money.

How does this work? I'm worried about it because if he had his way, he'd happily sit on benefits and get CSA from me. He says I'm getting off lightly. At this time he's going for 100% custody of the children. He limits me from having them in the week. I can only have them at the weekends. His excuse is that because their school is near him they should live with him, which I adhered too. but now he's making me feel guilty all the time saying he does everything. I'm lost. I can't appease him. All I want is my children with me, but because I have a mental disorder (which is under control, so I'm technically well). He's using this to his advantage. I'm very unhappy about it. He wants more money. I have no idea what to do because he says they'll take 40% of my salary and I wont be able to live on that. I have a mortgage and debt. What do i do?

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Piebeansandchips · 05/09/2018 02:11

As I said on your other thread speak to a lawyer

ems137 · 05/09/2018 02:47

Put your details into cms calculator online and see what the figures are under your current custody arrangement.

They would only ever take 40% of your wages if you were in arrears and normally only would take 20-25% depending on how many nights the stay with you.

But yes, you need to see a family solicitor and go to court to have proper access set in a court order, that way he has no control over you anymore. He doesn't dictate.

earthwindfirewater · 05/09/2018 03:14

Thank you its just confirmed what I needed to know. He's been misadvised. I can dismiss his threats now.

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MissedTheBoatAgain · 05/09/2018 03:45

Put your details into cms calculator online and see what the figures are under your current custody arrangement.

Take gross earnings and divide by 365 and then multiply by 7. This gives you a gross figure per week. Enter this into CMS calculator along with; number of children and number of nights per year children stay with you. The calculator will give you a weekly figure to pay in total for all children.

Child maintenance is meant to contribute daily cost of living for children including school meals, clothes, housing, etc. So no need for you to buy clothes and shoes in addition to paying Child Maintenance.

If your Ex wants CMS to make an official assessment let him proceed. He will have to pay the 20 pounds fee. He may end up worse off if he has to buy clothes and shoes himself?

earthwindfirewater · 05/09/2018 04:08

He will be worse off. i just worked this out

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MissedTheBoatAgain · 05/09/2018 04:54

He will be worse off. i just worked this out

In that case why don't you apply to the CMS?

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