What are fair child arrangements for a two month old, one and two year old.
My husband was coming round 1 or 2 nights a week and putting them to bed then also having them one day at the weekend with the older two.
However, our relationship has completely broken down. The situation is that he left me at 27 weeks pregnant for another woman and he recently has been going hot and cold, telling me he loves me, that he doesn’t know if he’s going to regret all this and he said “we have to wait two years to get a divorce so let’s see what happens” and wanting to go on days out with the kids together. But then Wednesday he came round and it was clear he had a massive argument with her, he looked like he hadn’t slept and took his mood out on me, which he always does. He was physically and emotionally violent towards me when we were together and tried to get me to kill myself when I was pregnant with our youngest baby.
Now he’s starting being emotionally manipulative again I won’t see or speak to him and I have suggested that he has the older two every other weekend 1pm Saturday until 6pm Sunday and have someone else pick them up and drop them off.
It’s been 4.5 months since we have separated and they’ve only met the other woman twice, so I am a little nervous about them spending every weekend at hers but on the other hand my husband got PND bad after our second (the third wasn’t planned) so I feel more comfortable with her there than him looking after them himself.
But that leaves the problem of our baby. He has barely bothered with her at all, and I really don’t feel like I would trust him enough with her yet and his partner is 35 (we’re both only 25) but she hasn’t got any kids of her own. So they’re both pretty clueless when it comes to newborns. He was just having visitation at the house but he took advantage of this and used this time to get to me so I’ve suggested a contact centre an hour a week (that’s more than he bothers with her at present).
Is this fair?